Do you want to meet hot women? Are you tired of striking out and going home alone every weekend? If you’re like most of us, it’s hard to meet really hot women in your every day life. Walking up to a hot woman in a bar or the grocery store is often met with the cold shoulder and dirty looks. You may find the singles scene at clubs to be uncomfortable and perhaps your social circle seems to consist of more married friends with a shrinking amount of singles. Perhaps you’re beginning to think there aren’t any pretty girls out there for you. Be realistic - when was the last time you had beautiful women clamoring for your affections?
Visualize for a minute or two what it would be like to have a sexy woman in your life…really picture that pretty girl on your arm, smiling longingly at you. Is she blonde, brunette or redhead? Petite or tall? What’s she wearing? Can you see her clearly in your mind? Believing you can attract hot women is the first step to actually getting a hot woman. After all, if you don’t believe it, why should she?
I’m not asking you to dream the impossible. Having hot women in your life can be a reality. I don’t care what you look like – looks are secondary to most hot women. Think about it. A sexy woman is used to having hot men. It’s not important to her to be seen with eye candy any more. It may have been fun at first, but the novelty wears off fast. Pretty girls want a guy who can keep their interest. Look at the man Christina Aguilera married. Not exactly a hot man, now is he? You see examples like that every where you go. Just look around you – there are average looking guys with hot women.
So take heart - there really are hot women out there that want to meet you! It’s just a matter of being in the right place at the right time. As they say, timing is everything, and that is so true when it comes to dating.
One of my very good friends is a beautiful, successful blonde who looks like Pamela Anderson and she is very actively involved with online dating. It is the only method of dating she ever uses now. She’s gone out with lots of men and had some great relationships. I’ve met a few of them, and they are average looking guys, not sexy, hot men. In fact, there were even a couple geeky ones. She doesn’t really care. She wants substance in a man and she’s not the only hot woman who feels that way. (she’s been dating someone for several weeks now that she really likes, so she may not be on the market for long).
If you want to date beautiful women then quite likely you've also considered matchmaking services to meet some pretty girls. It is not at all surprising that millions of singles have already tried internet dating services as a way to find someone rather than waiting for a chance meeting that never happens. Matchmaking or dating services are very popular and quite safe these days. In fact, it’s probably much safer than an encounter with a stranger in everyday life. Dating sites prescreen their applicants and you are able to see their profiles and pictures before any contact is made. That’s ten times better than going on a blind date too– we’ve all had at least one disastrous blind date!
So whether you’re looking for a relationship with one hot woman, or you want to date many hot women, your best bet is an internet dating service. If you can just believe that it is possible for you to date beautiful women, the pretty girls will flock to you – hot women respond to confidence in a man more than anything – it’s like an aphrodisiac! Take my word for it.
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Saturday, March 10, 2007
Friday, March 9, 2007
"I Love Him But I'm Not Turned on to Him"
Erin married Dylan because he was the first man who expressed his love for her and was really nice to her. She was not sexually turned on to him, but she figured that this would come in time. Now, 15 years later, sex is a huge problem in their relationship.
Erin sought me for counseling due to this issue.
“I love Dylan. He is my best friend. I enjoy being with him and doing things with him. But the sex issue is causing too many arguments. I end up feeling guilty because I don’t want to make love with him. Is there something wrong with me?”
“Erin, are you ever attracted to Dylan?”
“There have been a few times when I was really attracted to him and sex was wonderful.”
“What was going on at those times?”
“Those were times when Dylan stopped pulling on me to have sex with him and make him happy and seemed to be happy within himself. Most of the time, he is unhappy because of the sex issue. I just don’t feel attracted to him when he seems so needy.”
“Yes, this is the issue. Women are attracted to a man when he is in his power – feeling good about himself - not when he is coming to you like a needy little boy wanting you to have sex with him to make him feel okay about himself. If he needs sex to feel good, then he is using you and sex addictively, and this will always make you feel used. Most women are not attracted to little boys, and when he is in a needy place, he is like a little boy rather than a strong man.”
“Yes, that is exactly the problem! So there is nothing wrong with me for not being attracted to him when he is needy! What a relief!”
“Is Dylan open to doing his inner work to heal his neediness?”
“I don’t know but I don’t think so. He refuses to go to counseling with me.”
“Erin, the way you can start to heal this issue is to stop feeling guilty and responsible for Dylan and start to take care of yourself by telling your truth. When he is needy and pulling on you for sex, you would need to say to him, ‘I am attracted to you when you feel good about yourself, not when you are needy and wanting me to make you okay by having sex.’”
“But I am afraid of hurting his feelings if I say that.”
“You are taking responsible for his feelings rather than taking loving care of yourself. As long as you believe you are responsible for his feelings instead of yours, you will not be able to heal this. Dylan will not address this issue until you are willing to tell your truth. You are not responsible for how he responds. He can choose to be hurt, or he can choose to be open and curious and learn about what you are talking about and how to begin to move into his power.”
“But what do I do if he is hurt and angry?”
“How do you feel about being with him when he is hurt and angry?”
“I don’t like it.”
“Then say that. Say ‘I don’t like being with you when you are hurt and angry. Let me know when you are open so we can talk about this.’ Then disengage by doing something else – reading a book, going for a walk, calling a friend.”
“Oh, he will be so angry if I don’t stay and talk about his hurt and anger!”
“Erin, notice that you are wanting to control how he feels rather than take responsibility for yourself. This is your end of this codependent system. He is trying to control you into having sex with him and taking responsibility for his feelings, and you are trying to control him by caretaking him. Until you are ready to let go of control over his feelings and take loving care of yourself, nothing will change or heal.”
Erin is working hard to learn to let go of trying to control Dylan’s feelings and take responsibility for herself. In our last session, she told me that she is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel – that she felt herself really attracted to Dylan for the first time in a long time.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
Erin sought me for counseling due to this issue.
“I love Dylan. He is my best friend. I enjoy being with him and doing things with him. But the sex issue is causing too many arguments. I end up feeling guilty because I don’t want to make love with him. Is there something wrong with me?”
“Erin, are you ever attracted to Dylan?”
“There have been a few times when I was really attracted to him and sex was wonderful.”
“What was going on at those times?”
“Those were times when Dylan stopped pulling on me to have sex with him and make him happy and seemed to be happy within himself. Most of the time, he is unhappy because of the sex issue. I just don’t feel attracted to him when he seems so needy.”
“Yes, this is the issue. Women are attracted to a man when he is in his power – feeling good about himself - not when he is coming to you like a needy little boy wanting you to have sex with him to make him feel okay about himself. If he needs sex to feel good, then he is using you and sex addictively, and this will always make you feel used. Most women are not attracted to little boys, and when he is in a needy place, he is like a little boy rather than a strong man.”
“Yes, that is exactly the problem! So there is nothing wrong with me for not being attracted to him when he is needy! What a relief!”
“Is Dylan open to doing his inner work to heal his neediness?”
“I don’t know but I don’t think so. He refuses to go to counseling with me.”
“Erin, the way you can start to heal this issue is to stop feeling guilty and responsible for Dylan and start to take care of yourself by telling your truth. When he is needy and pulling on you for sex, you would need to say to him, ‘I am attracted to you when you feel good about yourself, not when you are needy and wanting me to make you okay by having sex.’”
“But I am afraid of hurting his feelings if I say that.”
“You are taking responsible for his feelings rather than taking loving care of yourself. As long as you believe you are responsible for his feelings instead of yours, you will not be able to heal this. Dylan will not address this issue until you are willing to tell your truth. You are not responsible for how he responds. He can choose to be hurt, or he can choose to be open and curious and learn about what you are talking about and how to begin to move into his power.”
“But what do I do if he is hurt and angry?”
“How do you feel about being with him when he is hurt and angry?”
“I don’t like it.”
“Then say that. Say ‘I don’t like being with you when you are hurt and angry. Let me know when you are open so we can talk about this.’ Then disengage by doing something else – reading a book, going for a walk, calling a friend.”
“Oh, he will be so angry if I don’t stay and talk about his hurt and anger!”
“Erin, notice that you are wanting to control how he feels rather than take responsibility for yourself. This is your end of this codependent system. He is trying to control you into having sex with him and taking responsibility for his feelings, and you are trying to control him by caretaking him. Until you are ready to let go of control over his feelings and take loving care of yourself, nothing will change or heal.”
Erin is working hard to learn to let go of trying to control Dylan’s feelings and take responsibility for herself. In our last session, she told me that she is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel – that she felt herself really attracted to Dylan for the first time in a long time.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
Thursday, March 8, 2007
The Most Intimate Way to an Extraordinary Relationship
Extraordinary Relationships in 1 Loving Step
Building love in your life, and developing an extraordinary relationship, is something that can transform your life and make it absolutely wonderful. Having an extraordinary relationship with a love partner is something that we can all aspire to. It is not just a dream; it is something that we can actually create.
Your creative power
When you choose to focus on something like that, when you make it a goal to build your relationship and make it really special, to fill your life with love, you harness an enormous reservoir of creative power. That power will go to work for you. It is your intention that activates it. By deciding that you have had enough of a mundane, boring or unfulfilling relationship, and that you want to re-inject the spark and the magic back into it, that sets the magic in motion, as it were. That releases the universe to begin the process of creating that extraordinary relationship.
So to get you going, here is one super-powerful method to begin to make your relationships extraordinary by developing an extraordinarily intimate relationship with love itself.
Return to your heart
All the poems have always said that the heart is where love comes from. Why don't we take that as a kind of gospel truth? We won't question it at all. We will just say, 'Okay, the heart is the place of love.'
The secret doorway to love
In ancient systems of meditation, people actually examined that idea, and they put their attention in the heart space, right in the centre of their chest (actually that's slightly to the right of your physical heart, but it relates to the position of the energy vortex described by Yogis as the heart chakra). And what they discovered shocked them. They experienced what they described as an infinite ocean of love within. This energy vortex seemed to be the access point to feelings of unending, unconditional love. By focusing upon it, a world of love opened up for them. Hey, that sounds pretty good, doesn't it?
Your experiment in Infinite Love
So, put your attention there in your heart space. Start to imagine, picture and feel love, however that manifests for you. Just try and get that feeling there. Bring a sweet smile to your face. Feel good about what you are doing. And breathe and capture that feeling of love. Act your way into the sensation. You just need to get a whisper of it, you just need to feel it for a moment and once you recognise it, it's yours forever.
Let it flow
Think of yourself as a channel or conduit for love. That love flows into you, through you, from you, through this central point in your chest. It's an infinite source, it's never ending. By you focusing on that love, not only will you be able to give it and share it to others because you will be full of love, you'll be constantly expanding love within you, but you'll be giving it to yourself at the same time. Love is rather like the sun -- it shines on all, it doesn't hold back, and that love will be there for you as well. As you feel it and enjoy it, you radiate it.
Being love
By tapping into the very source of love, you will become a being of love. And as you radiate your love into life, just by feeling it, life will re-arrange to reflect that. As within, so without. All your relationships will become extraordinary as a result of you doing this exercise regularly. By bathing in this infinite ocean of love, you will cultivate the power to create an extraordinary relationship with your love partner, with your family, and with the world.
Your extraordinary relationship with love
Accessing infinite love through your body, you are sending a big powerful message to the Universe that your life is all about love. You will find yourself intuitively guided to the right practical ideas and resources to improve your life and make your life experience sweeter and more fulfilling. You will attract people and teachers who can give you the tools and strategies to achieve your personal goals and fulfill your purpose. I personally have found it incredibly valuable to learn from those people who have already achieved what I want to achieve or manifest in my life.
On becoming a love master
In terms of creating beautiful, lasting, loving relationships it's best to learn from those who have mastered the art of relationships. In 50 Secrets to Blissful Relationships, author Michael Webb interviewed long-term couples from the top 1% of happy marriages and got them to reveal their strategies for cultivating extraordinary, love-filled relationships. You deserve to have an extraordinary relationship with a love partner that thrills and delights you, so be sure to check out that resource as it is full of practical tips and suggestions that you probably won't think of on your own. Meanwhile keep developing your extraordinary relationship with LOVE itself, through the heart space exercise you've just learned about.
Anne Amore of http://www.Super-Self.com is delighted to have this opportunity to share The Most Intimate Way to an Extraordinary Relationship with you. May you be now and forever blessed. And so it is.
Copyright 2007 Anne Amore
Building love in your life, and developing an extraordinary relationship, is something that can transform your life and make it absolutely wonderful. Having an extraordinary relationship with a love partner is something that we can all aspire to. It is not just a dream; it is something that we can actually create.
Your creative power
When you choose to focus on something like that, when you make it a goal to build your relationship and make it really special, to fill your life with love, you harness an enormous reservoir of creative power. That power will go to work for you. It is your intention that activates it. By deciding that you have had enough of a mundane, boring or unfulfilling relationship, and that you want to re-inject the spark and the magic back into it, that sets the magic in motion, as it were. That releases the universe to begin the process of creating that extraordinary relationship.
So to get you going, here is one super-powerful method to begin to make your relationships extraordinary by developing an extraordinarily intimate relationship with love itself.
Return to your heart
All the poems have always said that the heart is where love comes from. Why don't we take that as a kind of gospel truth? We won't question it at all. We will just say, 'Okay, the heart is the place of love.'
The secret doorway to love
In ancient systems of meditation, people actually examined that idea, and they put their attention in the heart space, right in the centre of their chest (actually that's slightly to the right of your physical heart, but it relates to the position of the energy vortex described by Yogis as the heart chakra). And what they discovered shocked them. They experienced what they described as an infinite ocean of love within. This energy vortex seemed to be the access point to feelings of unending, unconditional love. By focusing upon it, a world of love opened up for them. Hey, that sounds pretty good, doesn't it?
Your experiment in Infinite Love
So, put your attention there in your heart space. Start to imagine, picture and feel love, however that manifests for you. Just try and get that feeling there. Bring a sweet smile to your face. Feel good about what you are doing. And breathe and capture that feeling of love. Act your way into the sensation. You just need to get a whisper of it, you just need to feel it for a moment and once you recognise it, it's yours forever.
Let it flow
Think of yourself as a channel or conduit for love. That love flows into you, through you, from you, through this central point in your chest. It's an infinite source, it's never ending. By you focusing on that love, not only will you be able to give it and share it to others because you will be full of love, you'll be constantly expanding love within you, but you'll be giving it to yourself at the same time. Love is rather like the sun -- it shines on all, it doesn't hold back, and that love will be there for you as well. As you feel it and enjoy it, you radiate it.
Being love
By tapping into the very source of love, you will become a being of love. And as you radiate your love into life, just by feeling it, life will re-arrange to reflect that. As within, so without. All your relationships will become extraordinary as a result of you doing this exercise regularly. By bathing in this infinite ocean of love, you will cultivate the power to create an extraordinary relationship with your love partner, with your family, and with the world.
Your extraordinary relationship with love
Accessing infinite love through your body, you are sending a big powerful message to the Universe that your life is all about love. You will find yourself intuitively guided to the right practical ideas and resources to improve your life and make your life experience sweeter and more fulfilling. You will attract people and teachers who can give you the tools and strategies to achieve your personal goals and fulfill your purpose. I personally have found it incredibly valuable to learn from those people who have already achieved what I want to achieve or manifest in my life.
On becoming a love master
In terms of creating beautiful, lasting, loving relationships it's best to learn from those who have mastered the art of relationships. In 50 Secrets to Blissful Relationships, author Michael Webb interviewed long-term couples from the top 1% of happy marriages and got them to reveal their strategies for cultivating extraordinary, love-filled relationships. You deserve to have an extraordinary relationship with a love partner that thrills and delights you, so be sure to check out that resource as it is full of practical tips and suggestions that you probably won't think of on your own. Meanwhile keep developing your extraordinary relationship with LOVE itself, through the heart space exercise you've just learned about.
Anne Amore of http://www.Super-Self.com is delighted to have this opportunity to share The Most Intimate Way to an Extraordinary Relationship with you. May you be now and forever blessed. And so it is.
Copyright 2007 Anne Amore
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