Studies and surveys have led to the top two answers to this question, “Sex and Respect”. Yes, it’s true. Men want plenty of sex and they seek the respect of their partners. This is in contrast to women who primarily desire love and affection.
When it comes right down to it, men get a bad rap. They are often depicted as sex crazed party animals that have no level or desire of commitment, and this simply isn’t the truth. There are many men who seek out a monogamous relationship and are just waiting for the perfect woman to enter the picture. Does this mean that the “perfect” woman is a human Barbie Doll? According to current studies- no. Studies have shown that men are more interested in a woman that is committed to them, respects them, and validates their worth more than a meaningless tryst with a perfect “ten”.
Of course men are attracted to a woman by her physical appearance and that is a main component to the relationship, but as any man in a relationship can tell you, looks wear thin after time and when it comes down to it, personality can make or break a relationship. Men want to be treated with respect and to know that they are appreciated and valued by their partners.
Many women are also surprised to discover that men need love. Often, acts of love, verbal affirmations, and the like are typically reserved for the female and often neglected when it comes to the man. Typically, he is the strong, dominant, tough one in the relationship, so women often neglect to tell or show him how much she loves him. However, many men have stated that this is a strong need that they have. Men need love just as much as women do. They need to hear it, they need to see it demonstrated in actions, and they need to feel it. Now, obviously this is where men’s number one need comes in – sex.
There is no getting around it. The number one way to show a man that his partner loves him is through sex. It is often ironic that women can go without sex much longer than a man, and never realize that he is suffering and feeling unloved. It is a wise woman who realizes that her man equates sex with love and understands that when she withholds sex, she is essentially telling him that she no longer loves, respects, or validates him. It is also easy to understand why men stray when they begin to feel that this area of their relationship is lacking.
It isn’t necessarily that they feel they need a prettier woman, one with a better body, or more money. They are looking for love, because from the man’s point of view, without sex the love is gone. When a woman withholds sex from her partner, she is essentially entering into territory where the future of her entire relationship is being threatened. If you truly love, respect, and validate your partner, communicate honestly with him. Never use sex as a weapon against him. Openly discuss issues as soon as they arise and give your man the respect he deserves, respect him enough to work things out without using sex to punish him. By keeping open communication with your partner, and discussing issues as soon as they arise, you can be sure that you will be giving your man what he really wants.
Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. Use PlanJam.com to find additional dating and relationship advice along with date ideas.
0
Sunday, March 11, 2007
Saturday, March 10, 2007
Relationship Rescue - 3 Secrets to Rescue Your Relationship
Help! I need to rescue my relationship today!
Here are 3 ideas you can use to save your marriage or love relationship:
1. Make an appointment with a relationship doctor!
Relationship rescue can be complex so consult the relationship doctors, gurus and experts that have studied successful relationships and know what you need to do to get save your relationship. You don't have to go to marriage counselling unless you both have agreed that is the last hope for you. Simply make use of the great books, courses and websites that are out there that teach you how to have a blissful relationship.
2. Remember your vows!
If you are wanting to save your marriage relationship, start by recalling your vows. You made a promise to eachother. Now, it's time to start honoring that promise big time. You may even have to break a sweat to do it! But just re-establish your love relationship as your primary value. Make it all important. And start doing those things that you intuitively know already that make relationships work. The love commitment that you made to each other offers the clues to what you need to do for relationship rescue:
# To love, comfort and keep -- this means be affectionate. Speak to your partner warmly. Encourage, cuddle and caress them. Love works miracles to save your relationship.
# Faithfulness -- keep faith with each other. Support each other. Back one another up. Be the strength that empowers your partner.
# Unconditionality -- you promised to be together through richer or poorer, in sickness and health. If your relationship is sick, you stick with it and do what you need to do to change and make it better.
# Permanence -- your marriage vows may have included "as long as we both shall live" or "until death do us part". That's a promise of eternal love. So eliminate that mental get out clause (breakup or divorce) you are holding in the back of your mind. And take 100% responsibility for rescuing your relationship.
3. The ultimate relationship saver
Invest your energy in your relationship rescue plan by forming a new picture of what you want your love relationship to be like. As you visualise the qualities that you want to see manifest in your marriage or relationship, begin to ask yourself how you personally can start to create this. By taking personal responsibility, you will tap into your enormous creative resources and will be guided as to what to say and do in order to save your relationship.
I think an awesome way to start to rescue your relationship is to make a big effort to show appreciation and gratitude for your partner. This might take an enormous effort on your part if your relationship is really bad, but it can pay immediate dividends in the way you feel and the way the relationship pans out day to day. Simply say thankyou for all the things you are grateful to your partner for. If necessary drag up old memories and say, for example, "Remember that time when you picked up my dry cleaning for me? I really appreciated that. Thank you." Make a game of finding things to be grateful. What you appreciate, appreciates in value.
Gratitude has awesome healing powers. Explore it as part of your relationship rescue mission and you'll find yourself on your way to the truly blissful relationship that you both deserve.
Anne Amore of http://www.super-self.com is thrilled and delighted to offer you this brief relationship advice article. It is her hope that in simply reading Relationship Rescue -- 3 Secrets to Rescue Your Relationship, you'll find the next step to relationship rescue and a lifetime full of love.
May you be now and forever blessed. And so you are.
Copyright 2007 Anne Amore
Here are 3 ideas you can use to save your marriage or love relationship:
1. Make an appointment with a relationship doctor!
Relationship rescue can be complex so consult the relationship doctors, gurus and experts that have studied successful relationships and know what you need to do to get save your relationship. You don't have to go to marriage counselling unless you both have agreed that is the last hope for you. Simply make use of the great books, courses and websites that are out there that teach you how to have a blissful relationship.
2. Remember your vows!
If you are wanting to save your marriage relationship, start by recalling your vows. You made a promise to eachother. Now, it's time to start honoring that promise big time. You may even have to break a sweat to do it! But just re-establish your love relationship as your primary value. Make it all important. And start doing those things that you intuitively know already that make relationships work. The love commitment that you made to each other offers the clues to what you need to do for relationship rescue:
# To love, comfort and keep -- this means be affectionate. Speak to your partner warmly. Encourage, cuddle and caress them. Love works miracles to save your relationship.
# Faithfulness -- keep faith with each other. Support each other. Back one another up. Be the strength that empowers your partner.
# Unconditionality -- you promised to be together through richer or poorer, in sickness and health. If your relationship is sick, you stick with it and do what you need to do to change and make it better.
# Permanence -- your marriage vows may have included "as long as we both shall live" or "until death do us part". That's a promise of eternal love. So eliminate that mental get out clause (breakup or divorce) you are holding in the back of your mind. And take 100% responsibility for rescuing your relationship.
3. The ultimate relationship saver
Invest your energy in your relationship rescue plan by forming a new picture of what you want your love relationship to be like. As you visualise the qualities that you want to see manifest in your marriage or relationship, begin to ask yourself how you personally can start to create this. By taking personal responsibility, you will tap into your enormous creative resources and will be guided as to what to say and do in order to save your relationship.
I think an awesome way to start to rescue your relationship is to make a big effort to show appreciation and gratitude for your partner. This might take an enormous effort on your part if your relationship is really bad, but it can pay immediate dividends in the way you feel and the way the relationship pans out day to day. Simply say thankyou for all the things you are grateful to your partner for. If necessary drag up old memories and say, for example, "Remember that time when you picked up my dry cleaning for me? I really appreciated that. Thank you." Make a game of finding things to be grateful. What you appreciate, appreciates in value.
Gratitude has awesome healing powers. Explore it as part of your relationship rescue mission and you'll find yourself on your way to the truly blissful relationship that you both deserve.
Anne Amore of http://www.super-self.com is thrilled and delighted to offer you this brief relationship advice article. It is her hope that in simply reading Relationship Rescue -- 3 Secrets to Rescue Your Relationship, you'll find the next step to relationship rescue and a lifetime full of love.
May you be now and forever blessed. And so you are.
Copyright 2007 Anne Amore
5 Secrets For Increasing Intimacy – Even In The Busiest Of Relationships
When you fell in love with your partner or spouse you probably felt a strong intimate connection that made your heart hum. But as the years roll by you may be finding that the demands of your careers, children and parenting are leaving you less time for each other and the connection that brought you together in the first place. You’d like to get it back but you may not be sure how to accomplish that goal.
The good news is that increasing the love and intimacy you share with your partner is not as difficult – or even time consuming – as you might think. In just minutes a day you can connect with your partner, experience more passion than perhaps ever before and truly feel as one. All you need to do is make the following practices part of your daily lives.
No. 1: Touch Each Other’s Heart Through Heart-on-Heart Connection. At least once a day perhaps when you awaken, make it a habit to place your hand over your spouse’s heart while they do the same. Concentrate on synchronizing your breathing. This simple gesture will soothe both of you and make you feel calm and connected.
No. 2: Kiss to Awaken Endorphins. Many couples miss out on the pleasures of daily kissing but once you know that kissing releases the feel-good chemicals known as endorphins you’ll want to lock lips more often. Kissing the upper lip is especially effective at endorphin release.
No. 3: Eye-Gaze into Heaven. When was the last time you looked deeply into your lover’s eyes? For best results, gaze into your partner’s left eye, which corresponds to their right brain hemisphere allowing for feeling and experiencing versus thinking and analyzing. As you gaze into each other’s left eye you will feel a deep connection with your partner’s soul.
No. 4: Give Yourself a Jolt. The human body runs on electricity and if we are mindful we can align ourselves with our partner’s energy. To do so, sit facing each other with your chests and bellies touching. Breathe together as you deepen your connection and increase your loving feelings.
No. 5: Create Fun and Laughter. Humor and intimacy go hand in hand. Take time to experience all the funny things that happen to both of you every day but don’t stop there. Consciously build fun and laughter into your lives by dancing and singing together and, if you like, making on-the-spot rhymes up for each other – your own personal version of hip-hop.
We encourage you to incorporate as many of the above practices in your lives as possible and expand upon them as you feel more comfortable. By doing so, you will find you are less stressed, burned out and disconnected. Best of all, you will exchange those negative feelings for those of peace, loving energy and inspiration.
Good luck!
© Elsbeth Meuth, Freddy Zental Weaver – All Rights Reserved
Life partners and beloveds, Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver are the founders and directors of TantraNova Institute in Chicago. They have produced the DVD series “Creating Intimacy & Love” and have been featured on Showtime’s reality show “Sexual Healing,” on NBC’s Starting Over” and many other programs.
To learn more about linking your spiritual and sexual energies and to meet other people who share this interest, visit http://www.TantraNova.com where you can communicate with other members of the TantraNova World Community.
The good news is that increasing the love and intimacy you share with your partner is not as difficult – or even time consuming – as you might think. In just minutes a day you can connect with your partner, experience more passion than perhaps ever before and truly feel as one. All you need to do is make the following practices part of your daily lives.
No. 1: Touch Each Other’s Heart Through Heart-on-Heart Connection. At least once a day perhaps when you awaken, make it a habit to place your hand over your spouse’s heart while they do the same. Concentrate on synchronizing your breathing. This simple gesture will soothe both of you and make you feel calm and connected.
No. 2: Kiss to Awaken Endorphins. Many couples miss out on the pleasures of daily kissing but once you know that kissing releases the feel-good chemicals known as endorphins you’ll want to lock lips more often. Kissing the upper lip is especially effective at endorphin release.
No. 3: Eye-Gaze into Heaven. When was the last time you looked deeply into your lover’s eyes? For best results, gaze into your partner’s left eye, which corresponds to their right brain hemisphere allowing for feeling and experiencing versus thinking and analyzing. As you gaze into each other’s left eye you will feel a deep connection with your partner’s soul.
No. 4: Give Yourself a Jolt. The human body runs on electricity and if we are mindful we can align ourselves with our partner’s energy. To do so, sit facing each other with your chests and bellies touching. Breathe together as you deepen your connection and increase your loving feelings.
No. 5: Create Fun and Laughter. Humor and intimacy go hand in hand. Take time to experience all the funny things that happen to both of you every day but don’t stop there. Consciously build fun and laughter into your lives by dancing and singing together and, if you like, making on-the-spot rhymes up for each other – your own personal version of hip-hop.
We encourage you to incorporate as many of the above practices in your lives as possible and expand upon them as you feel more comfortable. By doing so, you will find you are less stressed, burned out and disconnected. Best of all, you will exchange those negative feelings for those of peace, loving energy and inspiration.
Good luck!
© Elsbeth Meuth, Freddy Zental Weaver – All Rights Reserved
Life partners and beloveds, Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver are the founders and directors of TantraNova Institute in Chicago. They have produced the DVD series “Creating Intimacy & Love” and have been featured on Showtime’s reality show “Sexual Healing,” on NBC’s Starting Over” and many other programs.
To learn more about linking your spiritual and sexual energies and to meet other people who share this interest, visit http://www.TantraNova.com where you can communicate with other members of the TantraNova World Community.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)