Female Led Marriage Can Uncork Surprising Feelings In A Marriage

Female led marriage is one of those factors that sits below the radar and continues forever, unnoticed. But may a spotlight could help raise the core of such relationships so that the rest of society could benefit from one of the traits that are usually involved... feelings.

Feelings and emotions are the glue that holds together any relationship. Sometimes that glues just seems to grow stronger as a relationship ages but sadly, more often the story seems to be one of calcifying, crumbling glue that mirrors the quality of the relationship itself. Yet if the partnership is to survive, both the glue and the partnership needs to be resilient and symbiotic, strengthening themselves to strengthen the relationship.

Of course, charity begins at home. Ultimately, each of us is responsible for our own feelings and outlook on life. But even the tiniest life experience will have told you that if someone around you is grumpy, odds are that quite soon you will be too.

Do you feel a reframing coming on? A different way of looking at your life? What are the possibilities if you deliberately attempted to improve the way your ‘better half’ is feeling? What could happen? How could it make you feel? Really? Then what would happen to your relationship? Really?

Often you’ll find that experts in the field of interfering in marital disputes develop an armory... it’s partly to protect themselves, and partly to help the couple to step back and take a fresh look at their situation. Sometimes the contents of that armory are like a good toolkit – lots of tools for use when appropriate. Others structure it more formally – “here’s the ready response to Situation A”. Many of the formal structures include specific steps for the woman to take, and specific steps for the man to take.

Here’s the puzzle. Do a search on your favorite engine and the publicly-available recommendations and suggestions on what each sex should do to make the other feel happy... and discover that they seem to be the polar opposite to traditional roles. Particularly in female led marriage. Some just change the priority, for example ‘tell him/her how sexy s/he is’ rates twice as low on the ‘make her feel good’ scale as it does on the male scale, but others differ dramatically.

This may signal a change in societal mores, or a single strand of tertiary teaching. I don’t know. But one this is for sure... it opens the floodgates for experiment... I hope you enjoy its fruits!

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